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Wedding Planning Advice: Who to Invite to Your Rehearsal Dinner

When it comes to planning your rehearsal Dinner there are so many options and there really are no “rights” or “wrongs” – some people keep it small while others invite everyone attending the wedding.   As you plan, here are some helpful hints:

  1. First things first, decide on the size and style of your rehearsal – choosing a venue and knowing the formality will help with this a lot.  If you’re having a sit down meal at a fancy restaurant, you’ll want to keep things small but if you’re taking over a casual restaurant or planning a yard party, inviting everyone isn’t so tough!  It was important to me and my family to invite the majority of our wedding guests to the rehearsal – so we knew a small, formal restaurant wasn’t in the cards!
  2. If you’re having trouble narrowing down your guest list, it’s helpful to think of people in groups:  Bridal Party, immediate family and grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, close friends, distant friends, and beyond.  It’s hard not to be able to invite everyone – but by grouping people this way no one gets singled out.  My husband and I have over 20 cousins which was more than our venue could accommodate.  We made the tough choice not to invite them but they all went out to dinner together and got to catch up so everyone had a great time!
  3. If you’re planning on having a smaller rehearsal dinner –but still want to see everyone the night before your wedding – pick a local restaurant or bar and let all your wedding guests know that you’ll be heading that way once your rehearsal dinner wraps up.  A great place to put these details is on your wedding website.   This way you can still see everyone and relax with friends and family before any wedding jitters set in!
  4. If you want to invite everyone but you’re daunted by the thought, don’t worry!  You can plan a pot-luck, cocktail party, or backyard BBQ.  Get your guests involved!  If you have friends who loves to bake, ask them to bring dessert – delegate different dishes to different trusted people – there will be plenty of food and your guests will feel like they were a part of your big day!  A casual rehearsal is a great way for everyone to relax and break the ice at an event that’s fun and doesn’t break the bank.   My own rehearsal was very casual and I loved getting to mingle with all my friends and family rather than feeling like I was stuck in one seat all night.
  5. If you aren’t able to invite all of your wedding guests to the rehearsal dinner, you should definitely give them a list of great restaurants in the area they can check out on their own!  You can include this on your wedding website, in hotel welcome bags, or both!  This way anyone arriving the day before your wedding will have a list of places they can go that are approved by you guys – the people they trust to show them a great time!

No matter the size and no matter the style, your rehearsal should be one more thing you love every minute of so remember to relax and enjoy it!

Wedding Wellness: Financial Planning as a Couple
Wellness isn’t just about fitness and health. It’s also about finding ways to alleviate stress in your life! Money is one of the major arguments couples have.  One of the best ways to nip money stress in the bud before it becomes a problem is to plan as a couple for financial survival.  Stop the financial fighting and enjoy your new life together!
  • Have an Ongoing Discussion: It is important to be completely honest about your finances with your partner especially if you will be combining accounts.  Discuss the issues in a calm manner and create a plan that allows the two of you to work towards common goals and dreams.  Plan a money date each month.
  • Pay off Debt.  Make an agreement and a plan to pay off any debt together so that you can move forward towards your goals as a couple.
  • Prepare for Emergency Situations.   Keep a savings account filled with at least 7 months’ worth of living expenses.  You never know if one of you loses a job, if there is a medical situation, a fender bender.  Living on one salary and saving the other is a good way to see what life would be like if you plan to have children and have one of you stay home.
  • Put money toward your retirement plan.  Contribute as much as you are able to to your 401(K) or 403(b) to get the maximum match from your employer.  Do this also for your individual retirement accounts or Roth IRAs.
  • Compromise is important as a couple.  Each of you probably have goals together as a couple as well as personal goals.  Be respectful of each.  Stay calm and be proactive by creating a plan before a problem arises.
 
 What wellness tips would you like to see from Meera?